Choices and Consequences

What a morning!  If my alarm went off, I must have turned it off without registering the fact.  So I woke up half an hour late, on a day when I had a meeting scheduled immediately after school drop off.  The two school kids didn’t want to wake up, and were still in bed at 7:15 – twenty minutes before our drop dead time to be pulling out of the garage.  The Dude said that he didn’t feel well, but appeared to be suffering nothing more than a very minor sore throat.  I insisted he get up and get ready for school and proceeded to feed the rest of the kids a carb-packed breakfast of bagels.  Time was running thin, but the dog was crying from his crate, so I ran him out to potty real quick.  Boo followed me, and wound up falling smack on her face as we were running back into the house.  I carried the battered and screaming child into the house, glanced at the stairs and saw the Dude, STILL IN HIS JAMMIES.  I looked at the clock, and it read 7:35 - yes, that would be my drop dead time to be pulling out of the garage.  Boo was still screaming, the dog was racing around the kitchen looking for stray bagels to pull off the table, and Dad entered into the fray to yell at the top of his lungs, “DUDE, GET READY FOR SCHOOL!!!!!!!!!”

AHHHHHH!!!!!

I wound up taking off with the three younger kids, getting Bonita to school several minutes late.  I was late to my meeting, of course.  Ray drove the Dude to school and I ran him up to the office, since my meeting was just across the parking lot.  He was forlorn, worrying over the fact that this is his third tardy, which means DETENTION.  Serving detention as a third grader is gonna… well, for lack of a better word, suck.  Its left me feeling sad and guilty, but he tries to play the “I don’t feel good” card all the time and today he is learning the hard way that our choices have consequences.

So there.  Finally.  I guess that’s the point of this post.  Choices have consequences, as we know all too well as adults.  As parents, we have a natural desire to shelter our children, but we also bear a responsibility to allow them to learn it the hard way.

Today, my baby’s learning the hard way.  And I really want to cry.

Re-Orienting

Having gotten off track spiritually (I confess to being totally caught up in the Twilight saga, which has disrupted my prayer and scripture routines) yesterday’s Solemnity of the Annunciation was a great reminder that any day is a good day to start fresh and do better.

It was a strange day liturgically.  We just finished Lent a week ago, during which time we sacrificed through almsgiving, prayer, and fasting, as we remembered Christ’s death on the cross.  Now we are in the midst of the Easter season, joyfully celebrating Christ’s resurrection.  And yet yesterday we celebrated the Annunciation, remembering when the Angel Gabriel announced the birth of the Christ Child to the Blessed Mother.  In just nine month’s time, we will again celebrate His birth.

Roughly two thousand years ago, on a day that started off just like any other day, Mary received startling, amazing, miraculous news.  The Messiah would be born, and she had been chosen as His mother!

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It’s a good reminder that, no matter the day or the season, we must always “wait in joyful hope for the coming of our Savior, Jesus Christ.”

How do we wait in joyful hope?  We do everything we can to keep our hearts and minds pure.  We partake of the sacraments, and go to reconciliation frequently.  We share the Gospel through our love and generosity. We try to live each and every day as handmaids of the Lord, and when we fail, we make up our minds to do better.

Clearly, allowing myself to become totally engrossed in novels about vampires and werewolves does not in any way fulfill the requirements.  Especially when it has directly contributed to the neglect of my prayer-life, housework, and professional responsibilities. Fortunately, today is the first day of the rest of my life, and I’ve decided to reorient myself around my “one word” for 2013, self-discipline.  If it takes me more than three days to finish the remaining two books, I believe I will have succeeded in some small measure.  :)   If my house is clean for Bible study Thursday morning, if I’ve actually completed the homework, if I keep up with the “Impossible Novena” and daily Rosary prayer, and if I manage to cross off the bulk of my to-do-list before the week’s end, I’ll be quite content with my progress. I’ll keep you posted.

 

Here’s a post over on Practicing Catholic on Beginning Again that I thought you might enjoy as well!

 

Why I Love Our Crucifix

A little over four years ago, our parish moved into our new church building.  While I was impressed by the grandeur and scale of the building, and felt that they had done an excellent job of making a modern building feel special and holy, adding elements reflective of our parish’s Irish history, I confess that I wasn’t very impressed with the crucifix.

OK, to be honest, I didn’t like it at all.  Jesus’s feet were to big, his lips were pursed in an odd way, and the nails in his hands and feet were missing.  That bothered me the most.  I kept waiting for the artist to come and finish his masterpiece by finally nailing those hands and feet to the cross.

Then one day someone pointed out that Jesus needed figurative “big feet” to bear the burdens that he had to bear and to do the work that he had to do.  The big feet also serve as a reminder that it is now our responsibility to be the hands and feet of Christ.  And with all the people of the Church making up those hands and feet, his feet are big, indeed!

One Sunday our priest spoke in his homily about our crucifix.  He shared the fact that, shortly after coming to our parish, he spent several hours in prayerful reflection before the crucifix.  He came to know “our Jesus” as the Jesus of John’s crucifixion – a Jesus who had total and complete control of the situation.

But still, those nail-less hands and feet bugged me… until one day I realized that,, if you covered the cross behind him and added a cloak, this crucified Jesus would become a resurrected Jesus.  Thus, the artist has given us a visual reminder of the joy of the resurrection, even in the sorrow of the crucifixion.

Finally, not all that long ago, it dawned on me.  Jesus remained on that cross, not because nails held him in place, but because love bound him there.

And I fell in love with our crucifix.

 

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It’s a Beautiful Day

I don’t know what sets it apart and makes my heart swell with gratitude, but the words that keep swimming in my head are simple:  “It’s a beautiful day.”

Is it because I went to bed at a reasonable hour, and turned my alarm off when it squawked at five a.m.?  I certainly do feel well rested.

Or is it because, while I didn’t wake up to write so very early, I did at least spend time in scripture before the day raced away?

Is it the result of not losing my cool when Bear threw a fit at breakfast?  It is definitely rewarding to prayerfully soldier through those moments, knowing that, for once, you are mothering like Mary would have mothered if her Son had ever actually behaved in such a manner.

Perhaps its because the washing machine is broken, so, while the laundry continues to pile up, it simply cannot be on my list of things to do this morning?

Maybe its because, having gone to bed early as well, the children woke cheerfully this morning?

Or maybe its due to the brightly shining sun, which I was blessed to witness in its rising, and which, despite the chilly 26 degree temperatures, gives the promise of warming through the day?

Regardless… I feel wrapped in God’s goodness, filled with His Spirit, ready to give Him glory and honor and praise.

It’s a beautiful day.

The Last Judgement

When the cardinals approached the box to cast their ballots for the next successor to Peter, they were faced with this painting:

Michelangelo’s fresco, The Last Judgement, depicts the damned being cast into hell on Christ’s lower left, while elsewhere the blessed are raised up to heaven.

When taking part in such a weighty task, it was certainly prudent that the cardinals should think about their own final judgement, and how the vote that they cast will establish them in the Kingdom of God.  Moreover, it was important that they consider how their votes will effect the final judgement of the 1.2 billion Catholic souls across the globe.

It occurs to me that we could all use a giant fresco of the Last Judgement in our lives.  This fresco would need to be a floating one, though, that would travel around with us throughout our days.  Or possibly one that magically appears each time we’re making a decision that could be crucial to our eternal well-being or that of another individual.

For instance, your driving down the street, kids strapped securely into their seats, when another driver rudely cuts you off.  You’re faced with a decision.  Do you pray for that person?  Or do you shout obscenities, ride their bumper, and lay on your horn?

Whoooosh!  Magic fresco.  Oh, yeah.  Pray.

Or, you see an old neighbor in a parking lot, driving her brand new Mercedes coupe.  After chatting for a few minutes about her new and luxurious home, she looks at your car and says, “Oh, wow.  You’re still driving that old thing?”  Do you calmly smile and tell her that you are blessed to have a car at all?  Or do you tell her that she is a pretentious, money-grabbing so-and-so?

Whoopaw!  Magic fresco.  Uh huh.  Calm smile.

Of course, there are the moments with the children, when you can react with love or with anger.

And there are those many moments with the hubby, when you can call to mind Proverbs 31, or respond as the world seems to teach.

Occassionaly in our lives we are faced with big, weighty decisions.  Probably never anything as big as what the cardinals faced these last two days, but big nonetheless.  A new job, education for our children, a new home, etc.  We usually remember to pray for guidance in these things.

But our final judgement will be less a product of those big, momentous choices, and more the result of the little choices we make every day.

And so, I’d like to have a magic, floating fresco.

Perhaps there’s an app for that?

Viva il Papa!

This is the first papal conclave that I’ve really watched.  The election of Benedict XVI occurred so soon after my confirmation into the Church, that it all still seemed very foreign and strange to me… while I knew that it was important, it wasn’t personal yet.

And so I was completely unprepared for the emotions that gripped me today.  Along with Catholics around the world, I’ve been praying for the conclave ever since Pope Emeritus Benedict announced his resignation.  I’ve been waiting anxiously to find out who the new pope would be.  Yet, I never thought…

I never thought I’d sob into a tissue as I saw the replay of white smoke.

Never thought I’d laugh with joy to see the faithful packed into St. Peters Square.

Never thought I’d miss getting my kids from the bus stop but yell to them from a block away, “Hurry!  Hurry!  We have a new pope!  Habemus Papam!”

Never thought I’d spend two hours sitting on the couch, glued to the TV, waiting expectantly to see the face of a man who, up until now, was a complete stranger to me.

And yet I did.  And I am So. Proud. to be. CATHOLIC.

May God Bless Pope Francis.

Snow – An Amateur’s Poem

Snow! Snow! Such wonderful stuff!

When it is falling, I can’t get enough.

Snowflakes melting in my hair,

Nose pink from frosty air.

Angels made in the white,

Men rolled into spheres so tight.

My senses thus beguiled,

I unearth my inner child.

And for a moment, or three, or four,

Find that I wish for nothing more.

Wednesday Whippets – A 7 QT Post

  1. It’s been a busy few weeks around our household, caused largely by Bonita’s musical debut.  As I knew she would, she has enjoyed every moment of rehearsals and performances, though she was a bit thrown at Friday night’s performance.  Much of her singing and dancing is done in the aisle.  Proud Mama thought she had chosen the perfect seat.  Unfortunately, I was one row in front of her.  Poor thing tried to half turn to me, her #1 fan, and half turn toward the rest of the audience.  Fortunately, I was able to get the perfect seat in the second act, and she performed beautifully when the confusion was removed.
  2. The Dude has kept us busy as well, playing basketball in two separate leagues. Despite his diminutive height, he was a key player on both teams and had great seasons with both.  Next up, Little League Baseball and yet another basketball team.  I do wonder why we do this to ourselves, but they have so much fun and it keeps them off of electronic devices for a few hours without any fuss.
  3. In other Dude news, His Coolness got new glasses: He only takes them off to sleep and to cuddle…
  4. Bear turned 5 a few weeks ago.  His birthday list became a great source of both amusement and frustration, as he continuously came to me saying, “Oh, Mommy, and I want…” completing the sentence with yet another train-related item.  In a rare moment of ingenuity, I turned this to my favor and started writing several things down in dashed letters, telling him that, until he traced them, they weren’t on the list.  He hates handwriting, so this was an excellent opportunity!  I also had him sound a few of the words out, as you may be able to guess:
  5. Bonita had a birthday recently as well, turning seven.  Sadly, her rehearsal schedule was so hectic at the time that we had to postpone any major celebrations till March.  However, we did manage to achieve a little “wow” factor…
  6. Of course, Boo has continued to wreak havoc any time she’s left alone for more than two minutes.  In the past few weeks, she’s cut her hair, had petroleum jelly a quarter inch thick on her hands, unrolled a full roll of toilet paper mostly into the toilet (the toilet already had something in there, if you know what I mean), and decided to create a new bedroom by emptying the books from the armoire in the living room.
  7. Lastly, I got me some new glasses too.  What’dya think?(Yes, I am goofy enough to take a picture of myself trying on eye glasses so I can get a “third person” view.)

Litany of Humility in Song

Last year, a friend shared the Litany of Humility with me.  I bookmarked it on my phone and pray it often.  Two nights ago, @wearethesalt1 shared this video on Twitter, featuring Danielle Rose’s musical version of the Litany – something I hadn’t known existed.  I’m enthralled and had to share.

I know that I greatly benefit from the Litany’s reminder as to what’s most important, and whose approval and love I should seek.  I can’t imagine there are many souls alive who wouldn’t benefit from praying this prayer on a regular basis.  Having it in song, on my iTunes playlist, makes it much easier to pray these beautiful words daily – or more than daily, as I have for the past two days!

Here are the words to the prayer, courtesy of EWTN.com:

O Jesus! meek and humble of heart, Hear me.
From the desire of being esteemed, Deliver me, Jesus.
From the desire of being loved…
From the desire of being extolled …
From the desire of being honored …
From the desire of being praised …
From the desire of being preferred to others…
From the desire of being consulted …
From the desire of being approved …
From the fear of being humiliated …
From the fear of being despised…
From the fear of suffering rebukes …
From the fear of being calumniated …
From the fear of being forgotten …
From the fear of being ridiculed …
From the fear of being wronged …
From the fear of being suspected …
That others may be loved more than I, Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.
That others may be esteemed more than I …
That, in the opinion of the world, others may increase and I may decrease …
That others may be chosen and I set aside …
That others may be praised and I unnoticed …
That others may be preferred to me in everything…
That others may become holier than I, provided that I may become as holy as I should…